As I am 2 years into the workforce and more than 2 years out of college, I am realizing how important having a healthy work/life balance is. Too much work takes away from your life and too much life takes away from your work and progress. I also believe that, in the way I define life, both concepts are taking away from my self-care time. When I mention having a “life”, I’m referring to the things and activities that bring me joy and release from the harshness of adulting.
As an extrovert, I love being around people and socializing. It gives me energy, inspiration and motivation. Although, I recently found out that I am placing more value on having downtime alone. It gives me a different type of energy; one that provides me with time to reflect and maintain my positive and well-rounded view of the world. This is something that I feel so many people don’t factor in the work/life balance equation.
I have been hearing the word “overwhelmed” a lot lately from those around me. That word really sums up how I’ve have been feeling too! I find myself being overwhelmed and exhausted by the constant push and pull of trying to balance work, my social life and myself. All are important but they cannot all take priority at the same time. I try to trouble shoot by adjusting one of those things and hoping that it affects the others but that never seems to work. I’m still in the phase of trying to figure out how I can manage to have it all by myself and be able to adjust when even more responsibilities and titles are added on to my identity. I think that will take time for me to figure out what works for me. It makes me feel comfortable that I am not the only one who feels this way. It’s terrible that we all feel this way but I know that it is possible to overcome and is just another muscle that needs to be strengthened. I do believe that discipline, time management and efficient planning are the most crucial methods for having all the things you want. Luckily, there are a million ways to find balance for yourself that actually works for yourself. Trial and error and trusting the process is how you do it. I will let you know when I’ve come to figure it out.
You know how people say that girls look better when they’ve recently gotten out of a bad long-term relationship? They have a certain glow or exude freedom in everything they do (even if they are hurting). Women can look like they’ve been eating all of the right fruits, drinking the best water and meditating 5 hours a day once released from the grasp of a toxic relationship (romantic or not).
ISSA WHOLE MOOD.
Whether you’re in a healthy relationship or newly single, there’s one thing that is a common denominator… both circumstances causes /inspires a person to focus on themselves more. The freedom to be yourself and put yourself first gives you the power to be a new person. You do it for yourself rather than for another person. You choose redemption over stagnation. I personally believe that whether you are in a relationship(and busy) or single(and busy), you can operate in a way that still allows you to grow and come into the person you were destined to be!
I have personally been in both situations. I loved being single and reclaiming my time. It gave me my empowerment back. I worked out, went out, and invested money more into who I wanted to become. I seized the opportunity to write the rest of my story myself and feel good about that. I also love being in a relationship but I have found out how easy it is to lose myself in our common goals to build on our relationship and forget to prioritize myself. I have that glow of being supported and having I have personal goals that I want to achieve. I have journeys that I have to put myself on that he might not necessarily have to be on. I’m figuring out what it means to still remain myself as my roles expand. I want to allow myself to be a dedicated owner of myself as much as I am a dedicated daughter, employee, girlfriend and friend.I love talking to my sister-friends because I’ve heard them express that they feel the same way. They’re finding solutions like designating a period of time to solely work on themselves. That’s exactly where my mindset has been at lately too! I really want to make time in my schedule to be on my own journey of self-exploration and be intentional regarding working on myself. I want the duality of being a great partner in a relationship but taking care of myself like I’m single ready to mingle. People may find this controversial but those who know KNOW. Happiness comes in many forms and the most important form comes from within YOURSELF.
Your comfort zone is the killer of progress. It is manipulative,spiteful and one of the realest haters you’ll ever have in your circle. I wasn’t even aware of my comfort zone and the damage it has caused in life until yesterday. It has been fooling me that my work is fulfilling. It has been fooling me into thinking that my place in this world is smaller than it actually is. It has been making me believe that my procrastination is self-care.
I have been keeping myself from working hard on dreams that seem impossible because I let my mind revert back to what it’s used to; coasting (aka procrastinating) through things that challenge me and accepting mediocre results. This tore down my self-esteem slowly but surely because that’s all I thought I could amount to. Not realizing that if I push myself to put real consistent effort into my work that myself and my work are nothing mediocre.
I encourage all people to consider pushing their boundaries. Consistently putting your self in slightly uncomfortable situations can show you what you’re made of. Jumping into an uncomfortable situation gives you a learning experience your comfort zone could never give you.
Believe me, your comfort zone won’t let you go down without a GOOD fight. Just remember you’re STRONGER.