It is so difficult putting in the work on all levels of projects. In normal organizations, you have a CEO that makes all of the strategic decisions, a middle manager who comes up with the plan and the entry-level person who does all of the nitty-gritty work. When you are completing any project whether it’s starting your own business or studying for a test, most times you are the only person in charge of all of it. There are fewer tools to help you through it than you think; technological or other. So that means it is your responsibility to pull up your boot straps and get to work. Your weaknesses become the very things that hold you back. There’s no hiding behind anything because you are bringing your full self to the role.
I personally hate trying to fit tiny tasks into my super busy day but I have to do it. I have learned to love to do it (it becomes more enjoyable that way). It is essential to every goal you have and everything you do in your day-to-day life that you stay on task. Getting organized can help fix this but for many of us out here, it’s getting over the negative mindset around following such a tedious or busy schedule. When you are constantly working, you are suffocating yourself with responsibilities and most times not prioritizing self-care time. When you allow yourself some time to relax and reset, you’ll feel recharged and ready to conquer your role again. It’s okay to not be on your A game ALL the time as long as you have an action plan to get back on your best behavior to tackle all of your tasks.
If you’re looking for someone to do the work for you in entrepreneurship (or anything else that requires your output), you most likely won’t get it. You get out what YOU put in. It’s the only way you learn and gain experience. Pour your heart into developing something no matter how difficult it seems. You were built for this. You are good at this. Your past self saw a vision of your future self in a completely better place but it’s up to your present self to do the little things that will get you there. Big or small you are the captain of your ship.
It can be very overwhelming to break your goals down into little steps and make sure you are following through with them. Especially while making sure your livelihood (your day-to-day) remains in tact, it can seem like there is no end to the chaos of life. BUT you live and you learn. Develop systems and habits that help making certain moves happen. Make making yourself more efficient, productive and satisfied a priority. You are your most important and longest-running business treat yourself as such.
Before diving into the subject of Professional Development, you should do some digging to know the landscape of where you work(what do they offer you?) and who you are(what do/don’t you offer an organization?). Here are some tips if you’re looking for new employment:
- You should almost always seriously consider companies that value and provide professional development for their employees when seeking employment. It tells you that a company believes in the professional growth of their employees. This also shows you that companies see that the success of their company stems from competent employees. If the interviewer(s) don’t mention it during or before your interview, ask it as one of your questions for them afterwards. If they do not offer it, make sure the perks are on point.
- Be strategic and think about all the things that not only would make you a more effective employee for the company but will also make you more marketable; making you a better employee overall. Start out listing your strengths and weaknesses and be real with yourself. Even mark/write down the things that you are kind of in between with; you’re not the best at and not the worst.
If you are currently employed:
- Work with your current supervisor to prioritize the things that would be more helpful to move your team or department forward. Remember, mention things that make sense to the company you’re currently working with so it doesn’t look like you’re trying to take advantage of them. If you have a real yearning to work on something else that doesn’t necessarily pertain to your current job or isn’t necessarily a transferable skill, research those things and do it on your own time.
- Keep track of the skills that you are acquiring so that when you move on onto your next phase of searching for jobs, you are accurately representing yourself on your resume and have some experiences of growth to refer back to when you are in your interview.
Your job can allow you to practice the things that you are not as strong with. You get better with every opportunity you get to use your new found tools. Your weakness could become a strength within your time working for the company. I understand that many people have terrible supervisors/managers who either don’t have the skill or the time to bring the best out of you so that just means you may need to find an external mentor or do some extensive research on mindset and career prep. If you need a mixture of the 2, take advantage of my online coaching. You are your best asset so pour into yourself!
As I am 2 years into the workforce and more than 2 years out of college, I am realizing how important having a healthy work/life balance is. Too much work takes away from your life and too much life takes away from your work and progress. I also believe that, in the way I define life, both concepts are taking away from my self-care time. When I mention having a “life”, I’m referring to the things and activities that bring me joy and release from the harshness of adulting.
As an extrovert, I love being around people and socializing. It gives me energy, inspiration and motivation. Although, I recently found out that I am placing more value on having downtime alone. It gives me a different type of energy; one that provides me with time to reflect and maintain my positive and well-rounded view of the world. This is something that I feel so many people don’t factor in the work/life balance equation.
I have been hearing the word “overwhelmed” a lot lately from those around me. That word really sums up how I’ve have been feeling too! I find myself being overwhelmed and exhausted by the constant push and pull of trying to balance work, my social life and myself. All are important but they cannot all take priority at the same time. I try to trouble shoot by adjusting one of those things and hoping that it affects the others but that never seems to work. I’m still in the phase of trying to figure out how I can manage to have it all by myself and be able to adjust when even more responsibilities and titles are added on to my identity. I think that will take time for me to figure out what works for me. It makes me feel comfortable that I am not the only one who feels this way. It’s terrible that we all feel this way but I know that it is possible to overcome and is just another muscle that needs to be strengthened. I do believe that discipline, time management and efficient planning are the most crucial methods for having all the things you want. Luckily, there are a million ways to find balance for yourself that actually works for yourself. Trial and error and trusting the process is how you do it. I will let you know when I’ve come to figure it out.
You know how people say that girls look better when they’ve recently gotten out of a bad long-term relationship? They have a certain glow or exude freedom in everything they do (even if they are hurting). Women can look like they’ve been eating all of the right fruits, drinking the best water and meditating 5 hours a day once released from the grasp of a toxic relationship (romantic or not).
ISSA WHOLE MOOD.
Whether you’re in a healthy relationship or newly single, there’s one thing that is a common denominator… both circumstances causes /inspires a person to focus on themselves more. The freedom to be yourself and put yourself first gives you the power to be a new person. You do it for yourself rather than for another person. You choose redemption over stagnation. I personally believe that whether you are in a relationship(and busy) or single(and busy), you can operate in a way that still allows you to grow and come into the person you were destined to be!
I have personally been in both situations. I loved being single and reclaiming my time. It gave me my empowerment back. I worked out, went out, and invested money more into who I wanted to become. I seized the opportunity to write the rest of my story myself and feel good about that. I also love being in a relationship but I have found out how easy it is to lose myself in our common goals to build on our relationship and forget to prioritize myself. I have that glow of being supported and having I have personal goals that I want to achieve. I have journeys that I have to put myself on that he might not necessarily have to be on. I’m figuring out what it means to still remain myself as my roles expand. I want to allow myself to be a dedicated owner of myself as much as I am a dedicated daughter, employee, girlfriend and friend.I love talking to my sister-friends because I’ve heard them express that they feel the same way. They’re finding solutions like designating a period of time to solely work on themselves. That’s exactly where my mindset has been at lately too! I really want to make time in my schedule to be on my own journey of self-exploration and be intentional regarding working on myself. I want the duality of being a great partner in a relationship but taking care of myself like I’m single ready to mingle. People may find this controversial but those who know KNOW. Happiness comes in many forms and the most important form comes from within YOURSELF.
Your comfort zone is the killer of progress. It is manipulative,spiteful and one of the realest haters you’ll ever have in your circle. I wasn’t even aware of my comfort zone and the damage it has caused in life until yesterday. It has been fooling me that my work is fulfilling. It has been fooling me into thinking that my place in this world is smaller than it actually is. It has been making me believe that my procrastination is self-care.
I have been keeping myself from working hard on dreams that seem impossible because I let my mind revert back to what it’s used to; coasting (aka procrastinating) through things that challenge me and accepting mediocre results. This tore down my self-esteem slowly but surely because that’s all I thought I could amount to. Not realizing that if I push myself to put real consistent effort into my work that myself and my work are nothing mediocre.
I encourage all people to consider pushing their boundaries. Consistently putting your self in slightly uncomfortable situations can show you what you’re made of. Jumping into an uncomfortable situation gives you a learning experience your comfort zone could never give you.
Believe me, your comfort zone won’t let you go down without a GOOD fight. Just remember you’re STRONGER.